"Your last day may be at sixty-five when you retire or thirty-five when you're laid off. Either way, you're coming home. What and who you come home to will be determined by what and who you cheat between now and then."
-Andy Stanley, Choosing to Cheat
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A little over a year ago I typed out some thoughts for New Ink about dealing with the status quo. As we prepare for another year of audacious thinking, I thought it would be good to revisit this post:
Status quo is safe.
Status quo is comfortable.
Status quo is poisonous.
Maintaining the status quo is like shoveling water out of a sinking ship. The sad thing is that the majority of businesses, politicians and churches have become expert shovelers.
They brag about how fast they can shovel water out of their sinking ship and even have the audacity to tout the quality of the pail they’re using. All the while unaware of just how out of touch they really are.
Why do we as humans do this?
The answer is that people hate change and status quo is the savior of tradition.
Hidden behind the seductive allure of tradition is the poisonous reality of what happens when you resist change. You sink. We get so comfortable with our way of doing things that we stop thinking critically. We stop asking, “Why?”
“Why do we do that?”
“Why do we think this way?”
“Why don’t we try this?”
Start asking, “Why?” and if the knees of those in control begin to tremble, it's time for change.
Think. In what ways have you or your company simply upheld the status quo? When did you stop asking, “Why?”
“Why” is dangerous.
“Why is uncomfortable.
“Why” is survival.
One night a few weeks ago I came home to a note from our neighbors saying our dog kept opening the door from the inside. They had to bungie-cord the door to a railing to stop her from getting out!
So, I set up a camera, left the apartment and here's what happened...
When my wife and I got our one-year old Border Collie / Lab mix, we had no idea this is what we were getting into. If this is what she's doing on her own, we can't wait to see what we can teach her!
On this date two years ago my dad preached a sermon at First Baptist Church in Downers Grove, IL. The crowd consisted of people young and old that had come from both near and far. But this wasn't an ordinary sermon. On that sunny Saturday I had the privilege of having my dad preach my wedding. Near the beginning of his message he mentioned a song that reminded him of my (now) wife Katie and I. You've probably heard the melody, but feel free to press play and keep reading:
The tune is familiar, but it isn't often you hear the lyrics, written in 1938. They go like this:
Heart and soul, I fell in love with you, lost control, the way a fool would do, Madly... Because you held me tight, And stole a kiss in the night..
My dad told stories of Katie and I throwing ourselves, heart and soul, into everything we do. That we were so obviously wired to dive head first into life. He went on to say... well, I'll let you read for yourself:
"Nick and Katie - continue to live and love heart and soul. If you do, perhaps 70 or 80 years from now, when a child looks at a faded photograph of this day way back in 2010 and asks one of your children or grandchildren about those beautiful people in that picture...
Asks what their marriage was like, what that couple who wed on that day in July were really like... May your love and passion for each other and for your Savior still speak. Perhaps... it will be as simple as a melody, played out in the next room." (At this point Heart and Soul was played softly in the background on the piano.) "Through tears, smiles and sweet memories may your children say:
"Ah. It was a great love story. For they loved each other and they loved their God, heart and soul. And oh and heights they climbed together."
May God make it so."
I wanted to post this blog to remind myself, and publicly remind Katie, that I am committed to her, heart and soul. I couldn't have asked for a more perfect women to be my wife and the mother of our child.
Here's to our next great adventure, Heart and Soul.
Recently, my wife Katie and I announced that she was pregnant!
The response has been humbling and we're very grateful for family and friends that are so supportive. Along with the supportive comments came a wave of messages asking for updates on where we live, what we're doing now, etc.
So, here's what's new:
- We're having a baby. But you already knew that... ;) Kate is 13 weeks along and our baby is due January 10th, 2013.
- We're living Carmel, IN where we volunteer at Second Chance Church. This is an amazing church plant that is really more of a movement than anything else. We feel very blessed to be a part of it!
- I'm running my business, New Ink, out of local coffee shops and a home office. Seriously, there are all sorts of really cool places to work out of here in Carmel. Also, I'm secretly competing with an elderly couple at my local Starbucks for most hours spent there in a week. I have no way of measuring this (or any purpose in doing so) but I think I'm winning.
So there you have it! The latest happenings in the Nick and Katie household. Thanks again for your support!
The view at the local tea shop in Carmel I usually work out of.